There are days when motherhood fills you with a love so deep it takes your breath away
And then there are days when you feel like you are slowly disappearing beneath the weight of everything and everyone you are supposed to hold
You love your children
You show up for them
But sometimes in the quiet moments you realise you miss the woman you were before
The one who had time to rest
The one who laughed freely
The one who was more than schedules laundry tantrums and the constant push to keep everything together
It Is Okay to Feel Both
You can be deeply grateful for your children and still feel the loss of your former self
This does not make you a bad mother
It makes you human
Somewhere between sleepless nights and school runs between checking homework and calming tears you started putting your needs on hold
You gave and gave and gave
And somewhere in the giving you forgot to keep a little for yourself
You Are Still In There
You are still the woman who once danced without needing a reason
Who had dreams before her days were filled with to do lists
Who felt like herself without always having to be needed
She has not gone
She is just waiting for you to look her way again
You Deserve Space Too
Motherhood often asks us to give everything but you are allowed to say I need a moment
You are allowed to ask for help
You are allowed to want something just for you without guilt
Maybe it is time to go for that solo walk
To sit in a coffee shop alone with your thoughts
To write again sing again breathe again without rushing
Even ten minutes of reclaiming who you are can begin to shift something within you
Let Go of the Perfect Mother Myth
There is no such thing as balance that looks perfect every day
Some days you will feel like you are doing it all
Other days you will cry behind the bathroom door and wonder if you are failing
You are not failing
You are doing the best you can
And that is more than enough
The real version of you is the one your children will learn from
Not the perfect image but the honest one
The one who gets back up after messy days
The one who shows them that being a woman means being layered not flawless
Tell Us Your Story
Have you ever felt like you lost parts of yourself in motherhood
What helped you feel like you again
What do you wish someone had told you when you were in the thick of it
We would love to hear from you Use the anonymous form here to share your story or simply speak your truth
Because sometimes the most comforting words are me too
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With love
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